I can't possibly say it better, but you need to know: "One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don't seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser's friends may … Continue reading Clear the Confusion
Author: Sydney Millage
Rest and peace are, perhaps, the most elusive elements in cases of oppression. There is no rest. There is no peace. Women and children are isolated with few resources against ravenous wolves. There are those that believe this is normal. Jesus says otherwise. When I am fighting sin and injustice, although I long for a … Continue reading Rest
I cannot tell you the number of times women, pastors, family members and friends say, "But there's no physical abuse..." as if that means a man's behavior is negligible. With or without physical violence, controlling patterns of behavior restrict and confine individuals to a level of isolation and torment.
Be the Change!
If you or someone you know benefits from Seeking Sanctuary or Sydney Millage's ministry, please consider promoting Clarity in Action Ministries. Clarity in Action Ministries is a NEW nonprofit organization that values and cares for victims of domestic abuse by providing resources to equip the local church in a Christ-honoring way. We are concerned with … Continue reading Be the Change!
God's desire is that disappointment and suffering would turn individuals to Himself. But too often, well-meaning individuals use marriage as the fix. They offer sex as a solution. They hold out respect (biblical?) ....
When Disappointment Turns Destructive
When a person with authority or power experiences difficulties or disappointment and responds in the flesh, we can expect a destructive marriage. It's important to note that a destructive marriage is not experienced by both individuals. It is perpetrated by one and experienced by the other.
I used to get bogged down reading that great chunk of the Bible known as the prophets. 27%--just over 1/4--of the Bible is predictive. Some were fulfilled in the first coming of Christ. Others are being fulfilled today, but the majority are still to come. I struggled reading judgement after judgement as I worked my … Continue reading Glory
Godly Men: It’s Time to Jump off the Bandwagon
If you are a godly man, perhaps you struggle to identify, verbalize, and act on domestic abuse because of the onslaught against you personally. You are afraid. Hurt. Threatened. Confused. Welcome.
The Heart of Communication
Many times women and well-meaning individuals mention communication as the problem that hinders marriage. She is withdrawn instead of vulnerable. He communicates in anger or not at all. Communication is a symptom, not a root problem. Addressing broken patterns and outward fruit it does nothing more than teach someone to sin better or practice sin … Continue reading The Heart of Communication
Why You Don’t Know
It's common that individuals who come in regular contact with a woman experiencing domestic abuse don't know about it. She doesn't want you to. And you won't see it. Why?