Do you ever wonder why some people think the way they do? If you are in an unbiblical church setting (oxymoron), a church that has "high standards" and manages people with other people's expectations, you might find the following interesting. If you are in a biblical church and you just don't get it--where did those oppressive ideas come from?--the following may help you as well.
Clarity
I want to be clear: Jesus is the answer. Not just the Sunday school answer. Not a distant answer. The immediate, complete, in the now answer. There is a reasonable rumbling that biblical counselors do more damage than good when it comes to helping victim survivors of domestic abuse. This is true....
Fear
I was asked about fear recently. The Bible says do not fear, but certain people and situations are fearful. Many church leaders and biblical counselors say fear is sinful and we should never be afraid. This is when I say, "Show me the money."
Wisdom is Not Nice
God did not create me to give to everyone, all the time. When we teach people to be nice, to give to everyone, all the time, especially those in authority, we create an ungodly, human, sinful system.
Asking for Help
I have heard people helpers, those who don't understand abuse, justify their lack of involvement because they weren't asked. You might have just rolled your eyes. If you did, I see that--hold on and let me explain for those at the back of crowd why a person experiencing abuse may not ask for help. She … Continue reading Asking for Help
I Want to be Like Jesus
There's a lovely old hymn titled, "I Want to Be Like Jesus." Here the first verse (the lyrics are easily found and the tune will be in your head for a day or two, which is a gift): I have one deep supreme desireThat I may be like JesusTo this I fervently aspireThat I may … Continue reading I Want to be Like Jesus
Hardened Hearts
A hardened heart happens when someone is confronted with the truth of God, often through another person, and that Word does not align with a personally held belief. For example: Moses said, "This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: Let my people go, so that they may hold a festival for me … Continue reading Hardened Hearts
Theology Creep?
My belief in God and His Word, my understanding of His faithfulness, goodness, and holiness hasn't changed. What has changed is my understanding of the depravity of man and the unwritten rules of desire that are covered with violence in its many forms.
Work it Backwards
I submit that it's not the Word of God that's in question--it's our interpretation of the situation and improper application. Until we are aware of how oppression is at work, we are unqualified to address the situation with wisdom and grace.
Who Do You Love More?
One reason it is difficult to identify and address domestic oppression--the offender loves the praise of men more than the approval of God. He wants to look good and it is of utmost importance that others see him the way he wants to be seen. Any interruption of his love, self-adoration and self-perception results in a full-grown temper tantrum...
Seeking Sanctuary 