If you’re not sure you need help or you don’t know if your relationship is normal, check out these resources:

Abuse Assessment


Click to access controlling-behavior-checklist2.pdf

The first thing a woman experiencing oppression and danger needs is help. If that is you, pray and keep praying. Turn to others. Ask for help. Don’t give up. Keep praying, looking, and asking until you find the help you need.

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” (Matthew 7:7-8 NASB)

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Oppressed, hurting women are looking for comfort and relief. Pastors and church leaders want to help. Individuals are concerned. What prevents our churches from effectively helping women abused by their husbands?  The missing piece is an understanding of domestic abuse and how to apply the good news of Jesus, His Word, and character to what has remained unseen, unknown, and misunderstood.  Churches and pastors follow Christ by protecting the weak and oppressed. Be a place of hope and healing. Women experiencing domestic abuse, choose to follow Jesus. He knows, hears, and will meet you in your need. Sanctuary provides practical descriptions, help, and hope for women who are suffering and those who long to help.

“Domestic abuse may be the most misunderstood and mismanaged issue within the church today. Sydney Millage seeks to remedy that reality with a work that is theologically sound, highly practical, and counseling room tested.” – Chris Moles, Pastor of Grace Community Chapel in Eleanor, WV, Certified Counselor with the Assoc. of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC), author of The Heart of Domestic Abuse

Other online resources and help:

Developing a Safety Plan

Power and Control Wheel

Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

42 Domestic Violence Warning Signs

Definitions of Abuse

Domestic Abuse and PTSD

Clarifying Words on Wife Abuse by John Piper

Marriage Teaching and Resources (scroll down the page to find free sermons and notes) by Brad Bigney

Find a Biblical Counselor

Called to Peace Ministries

Psalms to listen to regarding God’s loving care for you:

Psalm 23

Psalm 37

Psalm 55

Psalm 63

Bible Study helps:

Overcoming Anxiety

Ephesians Journal

Resources for biblical counselors, pastors, and lay leaders:

“What Not to Do When Authority Wounds” by Julie Ganschow