Why do I Feel guilty?

In a relationship with a controlling individual, there is a lot of guilt because that individual has a lot of rules. Not only do the rules change capriciously, there are real punishments associated with breaking each and every rule. The person in power controls which rule is most important in any given moment and determines when, how, why, and what kind of punishment applies whether the rule was spoken, unspoken, real or imagined.

Reality

The reality of violent domestic abuse--which happens to one in three women* (did you read that right?)--the reality is captivity. Women are captives, not only in their homes, but in their lives, choices, and heads. They are coerced and manipulated to another's agenda, wishes, demands, and and preferences. Women are threatened, belittled, bullied, and treated … Continue reading Reality

When You’re Up Against Power and Control

I started my morning reading about King Saul and David in the book of 1 Samuel and ended up studying the power and control wheel. PowerControlwheelNOSHADING If you haven't seen this before, it was developed by a group of individuals to describe the crippling effects of unseen abuse in relationships. Just because someone on the … Continue reading When You’re Up Against Power and Control