If one individual is more concerned about restoring their marriage than another, there's probably something wrong. That doesn't mean I'm against marriage, or obedience, or loving God and my neighbor. But when someone wants to "restore" a relationship, here are questions that come to mind: Is this a mutual concern? If it's one-sided, wisdom dictates … Continue reading Restoration or Reconciliation?
A victim's greatest need is safety and security. Unfortunately, she is more likely to find it outside church walls than within. Why? Too often church members and pastors excuse an abusers' treatment of his wife by believing (or saying) something like this: "If only you were more submissive." "Have you prayed about it?" "Do you … Continue reading One of Us
I was recently asked what marriage to an abusive man would look like if he never changed--if he confessed and asked for forgiveness as manipulation. That's a hard question. What would it look like to live, willing to forgive, but unreconciled? Jesus' said: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and … Continue reading Forgiveness without Reconciliation