Good and Angry

September 3, 2020August 30, 2022 / Sydney Millage / Leave a comment

If grief is the normal response to abuse, anger follows honesty or candor. "How could I keep going back?" "Why didn't I ____?" "Who does he think he is?" Because anger is a response to moral failure, it reveals what we perceive to be right and wrong. In the case of abuse, anger is not … Continue reading Good and Angry

Compassion Trumps Obedience

July 29, 2020August 30, 2022 / Sydney Millage / 3 Comments

It's time to call suffering what it is, to rebuke wrong doing, and rescue the hurting from unnecessary, avoidable injustice. Why do we fail to take another's suffering...lightly?

The Nunya Zone

January 14, 2019August 30, 2022 / Sydney Millage / 3 Comments

As you work through how to respond to an abusive husband, it is important to understand the Nunya Zone. It is discussed in more detail throughout the book, Sanctuary, but not by that name. Nunya is a term I use regularly in counseling sessions that refers to those things that are not my responsibility, as in … Continue reading The Nunya Zone

Submissive Equality

November 23, 2018August 30, 2022 / Sydney Millage / Leave a comment

Somehow we've gotten the idea that submission in marriage means everything. If a husband is displeased, it's because his wife isn't submitting. If the marriage is struggling, it's because she's not submitting "in everything." There a mistaken understanding that, because marriage represents Christ and the Church, the husband (representing Christ) is right and the wife … Continue reading Submissive Equality

Forgiveness without Reconciliation pt. 2

November 15, 2018August 30, 2022 / Sydney Millage / Leave a comment

Forgiveness is costly. When Jesus prayed, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing," He was not providing a blanket forgiveness. He was petitioning His Father, willing to pay the price for their sin against Him. In the same way, Jesus took the punishment of my sin so I wouldn't have to. … Continue reading Forgiveness without Reconciliation pt. 2

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The most important decision someone makes is about Jesus–whether to accept or reject Him. You, too, can know Him and have the assurance of an eternity with Him in heaven.

God has a purpose. He wants us to have an abundant life–and that life can start now!

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

But we have a problem…

Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and fall short of the glory of God.

God hates sin and will not tolerate its presence. Because it’s a part of who we are, we are separated from Him. The consequence of sin is death….

Romans 6:23 for the wages of sin is death.

How can we know we will be separated from God?

Hebrews 9:27 And as it is appointed for man to die once, but after this the judgment.

But what if I do good things? I am not a bad person, and I’ve never done anything really bad?

Titus 3:5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit.

You mean there’s nothing I can DO to get to heaven?

Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.

It doesn’t look good….

But God provided a solution for the sin problem we can’t solve, and that solution has a name:

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates His own love for us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

But how could Jesus do this?

1 Peter 3:18 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit.

So what do I have to do?

John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.

That’s it?? All I have to do is believe in Jesus?!

Romans 10:9-10 That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.

If, and only if, you place your trust in Christ’s death for your sins, that He fully paid your sin penalty, will you be saved–and have an eternity in heaven with Him to look forward to.

John 5:24 Most assuredly, I say to you he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life.

That’s all there is to it. Simple. Straight-forward. But challenging. The above verses are taken from the Holy Bible (New King James Version). Check it out for yourself, and if you have questions, please contact me via this site.

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