Following Jesus with Care, Clarity and Compassion

Why this site exists

Oppressed, hurting women are looking for comfort and relief. Pastors and church leaders want to help. Individuals are concerned. Yet many churches struggle to respond effectively when there is an ongoing pattern of oppression within the marriage and home.

The missing piece is not simply awareness–it is theological clarity.

We cannot be faithful apart from a robust understanding of suffering, responsibility, and the character of God. This site exists to apply the good news of Jesus Christ — His Word, His authority, and His compassion — to what has often remained unseen, misunderstood, or mishandled.

What Shapes My Work

First and foremost I am a student and follower, of Jesus Christ.

My counseling and advocacy are grounded in a Christ-centered theology of suffering — distinguishing between:

• General suffering
• Consequential suffering
• Oppressive or interpersonal suffering

Because not all suffering is the same, and not all counsel should be the same.

My goal is not merely relief, reputation, or institutional protection — but to represent Christ accurately and to bring every situation under His authority and light.

For we are not proclaiming ourselves but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Jesus’s sake. For God who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of God’s glory in the face of Jesus Christ. (2 Corinthians 4:5-6 CSB)

As light exposes what is hidden, our desire is that Christ would be seen more clearly.

Sample Teaching

The following breakout session reflects the theological framework that shapes my work. In it, I walk through a biblical understanding of suffering, the responsibility of the church, and what it means to come alongside those who are hurting without minimizing evil or misrepresenting God.

My desire in every context — whether teaching, counseling, or advocating — is to keep Christ central, to distinguish suffering accurately, and to help the church respond with both truth and compassion.

“Coming Alongside the Suffering — A Biblical Framework”

This session was delivered to church leaders and counselors at the 2024 Eastern Iowa Biblical Counseling Coalition Conference, where Dr. Kevin Carson served as keynote speaker. It was presented to those seeking to respond faithfully in complex situations of suffering.

Who this is for

Church members, leaders, and pastors who desire to protect the weak and oppressed.

Counselors and soul-care physicians who want theological clarity in complex relational situations.

Women experiencing mistreatment and abnormal circumstances who need to know that Jesus sees, hears, and meets them in their suffering.

About Sydney Millage

I am a certified biblical counselor with the Association of Biblical Counselors and hold a master’s degree in Biblical Counseling. I am the author of 37 Ways to Be Taken Captive and serve as the executive director of Clarity in Action Ministries.

My work includes counseling, training, and advocacy with individuals and churches seeking to respond faithfully in complex relational situations.

In everyday life, I am also a wife, mother, and grandmother, and I live on a farm in the Midwest.

For speaking and training inquiries, please see the Speaking and Training page.