If one individual is more concerned about restoring their marriage than another, there's probably something wrong. That doesn't mean I'm against marriage, or obedience, or loving God and my neighbor. But when someone wants to "restore" a relationship, here are questions that come to mind: Is this a mutual concern? If it's one-sided, wisdom dictates … Continue reading Restoration or Reconciliation?
From the Outside
Persecution vs. Abuse
"...your perseverance and faith in the midst of all your persecutions and afflictions...is a plain indication of God's righteous judgment so that you will be considered worthy of the kingdom of God, for which indeed you are suffering." (2 Thessalonians 1:4-5) Some godly individuals overlook domestic abuse because they see it as an affliction that … Continue reading Persecution vs. Abuse
Tried and Failed
"I tried (fill in the blank) and it didn't work...." We look for solutions to problems, problems much bigger than ourselves. We believe God is true, right and BIG, but what where do we turn when His Word doesn't work? This scenario is especially true in domestic abuse situations. Pastors, husbands, church leaders, even well-meaning … Continue reading Tried and Failed
Supernatural Grace
Jonathon Hollingsworth writes, "By extending mercy to the perpetrator when no one else will, the mob hopes to prove to a watching world just how 'edgy' and 'countercultural' Christian forgiveness is. The more visible the forgiveness, the better the witness … Too often, Christians mistake the transgressors, not the transgressed, as the ones most in … Continue reading Supernatural Grace
For Men Only
Hello, Gentlemen, This is an open letter to men from an aging woman who is confident in God's provision. I live by His promises. And I am addressing you, not with fear, malice, bitterness, anger or resentment, but with respect and love as a matter-of-fact. Please hear me out. You are no better than any … Continue reading For Men Only
Differing Weights
"To show partiality in judgement is not good. He who says to the wicked, 'You are righteous,' peoples will curse him, nations will abhor him; But to those who rebuke the wicked will be delight, and a good blessing will come upon them. He kisses the lips who gives a right answer." (Proverbs 24:23-26) Today … Continue reading Differing Weights
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Much like a mirror, we view life through our eyes--looking out from the inside. Even when we think we're looking in, we're looking at ourselves through ourselves. For that reason, none of us is objective. That's why the Word of God and the people of God are vital. An abuser sees the victim as an … Continue reading Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
